Sisters, brothers, sons, daughters and grandchildren who are Baby Boomers and Millennials need to develop resilience as they face new challenges and emotional struggles in taking care of an elderly parent or terminally ill loved one. Here is an excerpt by @PsychologyToday “All About Resilience”
Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on.
Optimists have a tendency to make lemonade out of lemons, and to then see the glass as half-full rather than half-empty. It’s an admirable quality, one that can positively affect mental and physical health. Some optimists consistently ascribe benevolent motives to others and interpret situations in the best possible light; others simply disassociate their internal mood from external circumstances, no matter how sticky. Adding in a bit of complexity, the latest research shows that tempering a sunny disposition with a small dose of realism or even pessimism might be the best way to build resilience and achieve one’s goals.
From Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/resilience